- There many website that talk about Myerrs Briggs compatibility, however, there are a lot of people who are still asking: why am I physically/chemically attracted to a type I might not be compatible or why am I attracted sexually to this type? Chemistry is very important and you cannot be with a compatible person if you are not attracted to him/her. Am I right?In order to discuss psycho-sexual attraction and why it happens we would divide all Myerrs-Briggs type personalities into 4 groups for the purposes of looking at the difference of sexual expression of the types and psycho sexual interactions between them:
- Aggressors/ Hunters/ Conquerors. Types belonging to this group : ESTP,ISTJ,ESFP,ISFJ
- Victims . Types belonging to this group : INFP,ENFJ,INTP,ENTJ
- Caregivers – ESFJ, ISFP,ESTJ, ISTP
- Infantile/Childlike – INTJ, ENTP,INFJ, ENFP
People belonging to the first and second group are – decisive type people, tending to rougly and assertively solve tangled problems. They assertively use their will to receive results. They are interested in the result but not the process.
People belonging to the 3 and 4 group “discussing”/negotiating – deliberative type people. They are prone to an open and public debate arising in the course of action/conflicts
Lets look at the female male types separately:
Woman- Caregiver, Woman- Mother (ESFJ, ISFP,ESTJ, ISTP)
This kind of woman have a tendency to smother her male partner. She is attracted to weak but intelligent men that can submit to her in everyday life. It brings her pleasure to protect them, support them and say something uplifting. This woman accepts,forgives and desires men that society might not have respect ( i.e. men being weak)
Woman – “ Agressor” , “ Hunter”, “ Conqueror”( ESTP,ISTJ,ESFP,ISFJ )
This woman always want to compete with man including in intimate relationships. She tends to make fun, be sarcastic about men. She loves to feel more knowledgable than men in any area of life. During dating she wants a man to be emotionally unstable, flatter her and show low will power and ambition.
Woman – “Victim”( INFP,ENFJ,INTP,ENTJ)
The ideal partner for this woman is physically strong man like SuperMan. She wants to feel his strength exerted upon her and feel like a pray. In the intimate games she prefers different forms of physical wrestling to ignite the passion of her partner. Certain masochistic characteristics are attributed to these type of women but it is on subconscious level.
Infantile/Childlike – INTJ, ENTP,INFJ, ENFP
The ideal man for these type of woman is usually kind and experienced man and knows life. In the presence of this kind of man the infantile woman feels comfortable as a child almost completely dependent on him. In the sexual games values a lot verbal soul to soul foreplay talk, comforting music that helps to relax and let go. She values a lot a man attentive to her physical comfort and with great deal of lenience.
Caregivers – Fatherly Types
Experiences and attentive to the emotional needs of his female partner, possess capability to make a woman open up by lenient courtship. In the love game he values women’s feminine tenderness and vulnerability, waiting for her admiration of his life experience and skill.
This type to conquer a resisting woman. In the love game demonstrates fighting. He can allow to be rough with women (physically and verbally). Expects final submissiveness from his woman.
He idealizes powerful women. He adjusts to her tastes, respects her strong will and power. He is full of submissiveness, dependence and obedience at one time and attempts to escape from under control at the next moment. In a relationship with a woman he subconsciously waits for orders, dirty tricks, and accusations. If not getting these reactions, he subconsciously provokes demonstration of this behavior in the woman.
Infantile Man – Man-Son
Dependent, naive in routine day-to-day activities, infantile man expects business and emotional support from the woman. Involuntarily emphasizes how nobody shows him attention ( like a child deprived of constant attention), talks about his abilities/skills that are not applied in the world, his failure to adapt to the struggle of life. In women he respects ability to deal with material/business world and responsiveness to his concerns and complains.
Infantile Woman ( ChildLike)
In the erotic game this woman values
In a love game this woman gets aroused by barely seen hints of affection and psychological fore playing. It is, without any special intentions, her actions demonstrate the fragility of innocence and child. Infantile woman easily gets involved with work and hobbies of her partner, whom she sympathizes. In the love games she gladly accepts the initiative of a CareGiver man, showing her own subtlety and imagination. The Aggressive-type men definitely catch her attention but Infantile woman feel afraid to get close with them because of the instinct-driven,rough approach to love-making. Victim type man attracts her partly because of his romantic gestures and approach at the beginning of courtship. However, a bit later he turns her off with his demonstrative nagging( showing sufferings) and unpredictability. With Infantile men this woman would feel complete undertanding but would start to feel deprived of their inability to take care of material/physical world things and provide comfort( take care) of the Infantile woman. The degree of alienation between two Infantile partners will slowly increase.
She is turned off by rough love making moves. Her sexuality gets even more repressed and hides when there is no foreplay. Forceful erotic games with physical wrestling does not work for her. Therefore, Aggressor-type men disappoint her. The best suitable men for her are Infantile men- timid but passionate, seductive and waiting for a signal/permission to be passionate. This woman likes child-like careful touches of her erroneous zones. When she finds herself in a intimate relationship with a Victim-type man she gets turned off by his nagging, dirty provocative tricks meant to provoke her to behave like Aggressor. She is repulsed by Victim men with time. She feels comfortable with Men of same type (Caregiver). However, within all this physical comfort she can feel emotional/ spiritual vacuum with this type of men.
Aggressive Woman Conqueror
She is looking for a man to exercise power during erotic doings. She favors men who behave dutifully but capriciously with her. Then she has a reason for aggression which comes naturally for her. Her Victim man adores her and is afraid of her at the same time. His behaviors can be compared to henchman behavior which is entirely devoted to serving the “beautiful lady”. Constant game playing is the best cure against repletion of emotions. In the relationship with infantile man she would miss those game-like revolts. In relations with the infantile man she will be irritate with the absence of the gamely submission on his part. An Infantile man would playfully fight and compete with the Aggressor woman in bed. Infantile man will not adapt to the aggressive attacks of the Aggressor woman and this can bring such an alliance on the brink of rupture. Relations with the “aggressor” male to her, on the one hand, flatter, and heat her sexuality, but on the other hand, turn her off, since it does not lead to the desired victory. Therefore, they may have only mixed success. Caregiver man will annoy her with his attitude toward her as a little child, which she perceives as humiliation.
Woman – Victim ( Prey)
Do not take the “ victim” word at its original meaning. This woman skillfully play on her weaknesses,
Cleverly playing on his weakness, insecurity and lack of organization, thereby provoking violent men to active and decisive action. In bed it is very important for hher to have a physically strong man who can take powerfully into his embrace so that she feels the power of male’s body. So that she feels the desire to submit to his will. She finds Caregiver men comfortable to be with but a bit borring partners. Even worse is her attitude towards Infantile men whom she finds as weak-willed losers. With men of the same type she has a difficult relationship competing in who is a better victim and asking for special rewards for being such. These victim-to-victim games of nagging and playing weak is very exhausting for both.